Welcome
I’m Emma Sargent and I’m probably a lot like you. I am the mother of two children who are now 10 and 11, and I spend a lot of time and energy trying to be my best for my children and the family.
There is no doubt that being a parent is one of the toughest jobs around – and the most rewarding. It’s hard work bringing kids up when there are so many influences around and time pressures on us and just like you, because I love them, my children are a constant source of concern – are they doing ok at school; can they stand up for themselves; how good are they at making friends; can they handle the pressures that THEY are under; will they make the most of their talents; do they even know their talents…..and the list goes on.
You know, I want simple things for my children; simple things that aren’t easy to achieve. I want them to be happy and to be able to live a life that they want and make the most of themselves. Wouldn’t it be great if we could all leave the world a better place and know that our children will do that too?
I’m a working mother as well, like I’m sure some of you are, and of course that adds to the pressure of spending good quality time with the children and making sure that we pay them enough attention. It’s an emotional rollercoaster!
When my children started school in 2002, one day I was walking into school when a friend told me that she couldn’t get her son to go to football. She couldn’t understand it – he loved football and she said she had tried everything and now she was so frustrated with him not being able to tell her why, she was just getting cross with him. We’ve all been in those situations, haven’t we?
I made some suggestions to my friend about what questions she could ask him and explained how and what he might be thinking that she needed to discover before she could help him.
The next day she told me that her conversation was nothing short of miraculous. “How come you knew what I should ask him? And how come I don’t?!!” she exclaimed.
“How come you knew what I should ask him?
And how come I don’t?!!”
Well of course, a light bulb moment. I coach people and train coaches and I have been doing it for the last 15 years. I realised that I was using things that I use with chief executives with my children and friends’ children. The thing is, I had been coaching for so long, I didn’t even realise what I was doing when I spoke with the kids! The second light bulb moment was the realisation that people in general don’t know how to it…and it’s nobody’s fault – we just don’t get taught how to understand each other – schools don’t teach us that.
It’s not our fault that we don’t know how to understand our children
Where in our lives do we get taught self awareness, how we create our own problems, how we think and how to overcome them? Nowhere. Well I certainly didn’t until MUCH later.
Back to 2002….From that moment on it was like a snowball gathering pace. I found myself suddenly in demand from friends and friends of friends who wanted me to teach them how to do what I do. So I did.
Then the pressure started, parents started saying to me, “You should write a book – parents need to know this stuff.” Well, I had a lot of work on, my time was really precious and I didn’t really think I had it in me to write a book. Anyway, I did write the book eventually and now my second book is in the bookshops!
And now readers are asking for more from me to help them with issues that they are meeting on a day to day basis.
YOU can help your children be their best!
You know, a lot of people look to outsiders like parent coaches to help them resolve issues that they believe they can’t solve for themselves. There is certainly a place for that, but that’s not what I’m about. I think it’s much more useful to learn how to interact with your children differently on a day to day basis so that you don’t have to turn to outside help every time there is a problem. It’s really important to me that everyone learns how to:
- Use language that helps our children to have useful beliefs
- Understand how our children learn so that we can support them
- Raise our children’s awareness of what they are good at
- Find out how they are causing their problems
- Teach them strategies for success
- Help them to think for themselves
- Help them to know what they want and be able to achieve it
- Teach them how to relate to others – because if you are good at it, they will learn from you.
It may sound like it’s not that easy, but you know there are some simple things that really can make an enormous difference and you don’t have to be a qualified psychologist and coach to be able to do them. I believe in keeping things simple and accessible to everyone. You just need to be interested in your children and hold their best futures in mind – and I know you already do that.
Our children say things that leave us speechless – I don’t think I’ve got any friends; I’m really worried about my test – and our instinct is to reassure them – you’ll be fine, of course you’ve got friends. But it doesn’t work! We need to understand HOW our children think so that we can help them think differently. Offering advice sometimes just doesn’t cut it.
Help them to be successful EVERYDAY
I will share simple strategies and show you a way of teaching your children to think which will help them to overcome every day obstacles such as not wanting to do homework, arguing with parents or friends, or worrying about something. It will also help them to know and get more of what they want out of life. I started my own personal development when I was nearly thirty – it was only then that I became really aware of what’s important to me, what motivates me and how I create my own reality and how I limit myself. I am happy to say that it is very different for my children.
Find out what motivates them and help them learn
People often ask me about learning – reading, spelling, comprehension and maths problems –I will be sharing the story of how I taught my son comprehension skills in less than five minutes after his school teacher told me he had a serious comprehension problem.
I am working hard to put together some extra stuff that you can’t read about in the book to help you think like a coach and guide your children to success every day. It’s not ready yet so I can’t tell you exactly what form it will take, but I will be giving away some of it over the next few weeks.
Today, you can get INSTANT access to a FREE video that will give you some tips that could change your life!
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